Conference – inspiring and deflating

I went to a conference on Saturday.  It was the Bridging the gap student event put on by the BACP (British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy).

So it was both really inspiring and deflating.  Not in equal measure I feel.

The deflation ….

Firstly the average salary of a counsellor in the UK?  £11,000.  That is deflating in terms of what it means about who will come and work in the industry.  I’m sorry but the majority of the attendees filled the UK stereotype of a counsellor.  White, middle aged, middle class, female.  One speaker pointed this out saying right at the start of their training they asked a tutor why that was so.  His response was “Because they have white, middle aged, middle class husbands that can pay for them to play at counselling”.  I don’t believe these people are playing at it at all I’m sure the vast majority are committed caring individuals but there’s some truism in the statement and that stereotype sadly.  However as someone who is definitely not one of those categories – I’m certainly a male and doesn’t associate with another despite all appearances – I’ll be working class till I die no matter what house I own, car I drive or career I follow (for me being working class is in my genes not in my bank balance) I may have some unique selling points to offer clients.

Now the inspiration…

Loads of it.  People talking about how they forged out a private practice using ingenious methods like swapping their spare room with someone else.  Genius!  Don’t want to counselling in your own home but can’t afford to rent somewhere?  Know someone with the same problem?  Do you both have a room you could convert to a counselling space?  Yes?  Then you use theirs they use yours and let your clients know it is only a business arrangement that you use that room.  Simple genius!

One thing really struck me was a talk which touched on do we as a counselling profession actually help with the oppression of the minority and the diverse?  By helping these folks integrate into society are we simply oppressing their individualism to ensure they look more like the rest of us?  Like… WOW man!  Got me thinking.  Also if you work for an organisation to counsel staff or other stakeholders are you simply propping up a failing institution by helping those people cope week to week rather than deal with the systemic issues within that organisation?  Say you took one day a week to counselling the staff of a company and every week every one of your clients moaned about the hours they have to work, that they are taking work home at the weekend and it was damaging their families lives etc?  And that they all broadly said “Talking to you is the only way I cope getting through the week”.  You look at the nice regular fixed income this company is providing and that you’ve promised complete confidentiality to your clients and that nothing will go back to the employer?   But really… what should you do?

Actually those two situations sound bleak but to me that was actually inspirational about the value of being a counsellor to those people, to society and to the institutions we may be employed by.  But it is an ethical dilemma labyrinth.

The big thing that really came out to me though was – be authentic, be who you are as a person as a counsellor, don’t just play the role as a counsellor.  If you are acting a part you truly aren’t underneath the client will smell a phony and soon depart and you’ll never reap the benefit of helping people with the exploration that is potentially available to them.  The inspiration far outweighed the deflation btw.

Okay now… where was I with that Case Study!

About furtheron

Music and guitar obsessive who is a recovering alcoholic to boot
This entry was posted in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink.

11 Responses to Conference – inspiring and deflating

  1. It says something about a society that won’t pay a fair, decent living wage to someone who is helping others but will heap buckets of money on an investment banker whose only interest is lining his pockets. How did this happen, I wonder?

    • furtheron says:

      Just look at those the current working class elect to office….. They think the rich business men will save them all… deluded… I must blog on the concentration of riches to the rich at some point

      • I feel bad for all the working class supporters of Trump. They’ve been sold a false bill of goods and are in for a rude awakening. Trump sullied Clinton for her Wall Street ties and promptly filled his cabinet with Goldman Sachs employees. Don’t get me started or I’ll be late for work.

      • furtheron says:

        You go to work and you help fill up the bank accounts of those bankers – its what making America great again…

  2. Liz Hinds says:

    Most of the counsellors I know fit the bill exactly. I think your life experiences will give yo an extra edge, a greater empathy rather than sympathy.

  3. ainsobriety says:

    I would love to become a counsellor. I always wished I had gone into a field where I worked with people.
    I’m sure you will find a niche.

    My small exposure to the big business of counselling seems to indicate that working for larger companies who provide services through employee plans might be one way to be financially stable.
    There are lots of people out there who need help.

  4. Paul S says:

    Wow…that is disappointingly small beans for something that to me seems like very important work. My wife is a therapist, and she does an office space sharing with other therapists. She has done this for years. It makes sense to share out a single room or two rooms and so rent is very affordable. Hopefully you will be able to find a space with a few people and really reduce your overhead!

    Great post -especially about being authentic. I agree that people can sniff out a phony!


  5. That was an interesting conference!
    Would that only be about 10,000 dollars?
    I have had good therapists, and not so good ones.
    The not so good ones spent a lot of time talking about themselves.

    • furtheron says:

      They most certainly were not the good ones. A good therapist should avoid bring any focus on them throughout the work the focus should be on client and their concerns, issues etc.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s