No Sex Please We’re British

Sadly the old farce title seems to be slowly coming true if you believe the latest news

Yes folks us reserved boring old Brits are not having as much hanky panky between the sheets as we used to. This reports points to factors that the experts are saying may be to blame, the current economic downturn leading to unemployment and loss of self-esteem or just simply stress and depression in times when people are worried about money.

The other two I noticed are… availability of internet porn – which is replacing the actual act itself and also people taking their laptops, tablets etc. to bed with them.  

Do you think we need a campaign to get people having more sex? I’ll leave you all to come up with suitable names for it :-/

I just think to myself if you take these figures you then have to wonder how come we’re in the middle of a baby boom in the UK? I mean you need one to get the other (see I did pay attention in Biology classes).

I worry about stats like this – people consider the “normal” and judge themselves and others against it and I’m never sure that is a useful practice most of the time. Are you happy? Do you feel safe? those are things that should matter rather than meeting some norm on a chart.

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Music and guitar obsessive who is a recovering alcoholic to boot
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12 Responses to No Sex Please We’re British

  1. I am one of those boring biddies, Graham. I will be frank and say that it doesn’t interest me much. I am not old, neither am I young. But for sure, add in kids, no privacy, shift work, etc. and frankly, I have no real interest in it any more. I am sure the missus isn’t pleased (no pun intended), but it’s just not on the radar much. It’s more me than us. We are great in all other respects. For me it’s about play (what my old therapist called it) or lackthereof in all aspects of my life and I have even spoken to my sponsor about it, and I don’t really know what it’s about, but there is some sort of imbalance there. But I am fine with being fine about at the moment. Perhaps it’s just laziness…lol.

    As for the name…let me think upon it…ha ha.

  2. I think articles like this are supposed to garner readers rather than problem solve.

    I dunno. How can you have a drinking epidemic AND a sex crisis? Doesn’t excess drinking often lead to ill-advised sex?

  3. C says:

    I agree that nobody should feel judged against some kind of ‘norm’, especially when it comes to such an intimate subject… Do you remember that scene in ‘Fawlty Towers’ when Basil is having a conversation with a guest who is a psychiatrist – the psychiatrist is talking about holidays but through a typical communication error Basil thinks he’s talking about sex. The looks of horror on both their faces when the psychiatrist suggests ‘once or twice a year’ and Basil suggests ‘once or twice a week’ say it all…

    Personally I’m just sad (and actually rather appalled) that internet porn could ever ‘replace’ the act itself! (Does that make me old-fashioned for just wanting the real thing!)

    As for campaign names, could we just nick some from existing ones, such as:
    Nike’s ‘Just Do It’, Coke’s ‘It’s The Real Thing’, McDonald’s ‘I’m Lovin’ It’ and those ones about finger lickin’ good, melts in your mouth not in your hands etc etc etc. Hmm, I know what I’m going to be doing tonight – sadly probably looking up slogans on the ‘net…. Oh, the irony.

    • furtheron says:

      Love your idea on the campaign names…

      I’ve been pondering on the internet porn thing – you know I wonder whether actually it is the unrealistic nature of much of that which might be the problem – people see some of that think it is “normal” and are either concerned they don’t match up to that as a requirement and therefore abstain… I don’t know but just a thought – there is a ton more research this survey could lead to really

  4. byebyebeer says:

    I don’t buy that online porn or social media distractions are replacing real sex. That implies people were only having more sex before because they were less distracted or more bored. The study sounds pretty solid, but I hope they caught enough people going through a normal down cycle or dry spell.

  5. 1looby says:

    I don’t like these articles–they’re making sex into a contest, a form of social status.
    Neither do I think internet porn has much to do with it. In my experience, when I’m having a lot of sex with Trina, I get more into porn. When my sex drive wanes, so does my appetite for porn. They’re not opposites, they’re just all part of it. As is masturbation. Just masturbating is great, and should be counted as sex. Sex with other people is probably forms a small proportion of the sex we have.

    I do think it’s important to try to keep the fires burning though. Sex is a psychological adventure, a form of intimate adventure, involving power and pleasure. I am very very keen to keep me and Trina on our toes about it, but fuck all these surveys, as if there’s something better about having sex with someone else rather than doing it on your own.

  6. Aunt Jax says:

    I agree that nobody should judge themselves against statistics, besides they can only gauge that by the groups of people that the study is based on or those who give input / participate, so it doesn’t necessarily give a perfect outlook. Instead, it gives a vague overview of a certain percentage of the population… am I right?

    That being said, I don’t think anyone should hold up to a certain level of sex, but yes whatever makes you happy. If you’re happy with once a year on your anniversary, or birthday, or never, then good for you… If you like it 3 times a week, or like to get busy every day at least once that is wonderful too.

    The problem lies in relationships where one spouse needs it more than the other, and the spouse that needs it less doesn’t take into consideration the feelings of the more amorous party. You may think that is not a big deal, but you can find ways to make up for your lack of libido, intimacy, alternative ways to please said spouse or whatever you HAVE to do to keep the ‘randier’ one satisfied, lest ye be replaced… What you won’t do, someone somewhere will…

    Sex isn’t the most important factor in a relationship, or well it doesn’t HAVE to be, but being thoughtful and treating one another well, and keeping each other happy as a “couple” is… do whatever it takes, or be single.

  7. liz says:

    Husband read that out to me from the BBC website. Hey, for a pair of old fogeys we’re doing better than most!

  8. daisyfae says:

    Not just the Brits, i’d think… we’re all tired. i think the allure of SEX has been crushed by media hype, porn, aging populace, and perhaps the realization that it won’t SOLVE ALL OF OUR PROBLEMS. Perhaps what we really need is intimacy, which is a bit different and in many cases involves physical pleasure?

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